Endometriosis Blog: SEVENTH Anniversary Of My Local Endometriosis Support Group!!!

On August 8, 2001 we held our first local endometriosis support group meeting.

Prior to the meeting, I had done various things to create awareness about our new group.

I hung fliers in various places (the library distributed it to every library in the county and even hung them up for me!), notified the nearest city's major newspaper to have my group added (for free since we are a nonprofit group) to their health calendar, distributed brochures to my doctors' offices, & called women whose contact information I had gotten from The Endometriosis Association (which I was able to obtain by applying to be an Endometriosis Association support group leader, getting approved as one, and agreeing to keep women's contact information completely confidential.

When I called the women on the Endometriosis Association list, I received a warm welcome. I told them about the new group and asked them if they'd like to be added to my email mailing list. Most said yes.

I used email (with a distribution list to save time and send one email to the entire email mailing list). I used email to send meeting times, location, and directions to our meeting place.

Once I had made calls to everyone on the list, I had about 23 women signed up for the notification emails. Today my email mailing list has grown to 42 women. Many support group members don't generally make it to meetings but like to get the emails to stay in the loop about endo. Occasionally I send out info on endometriosis research and links to endometriosis sites.

In the last 7 years our group has been busy:

+ Our support group was featured on the local news

+ We (some group members) emailed a major newspaper that had written false and misleading comments about fibromyalgia

+ We shared information regarding hormone replacement therapy

+ We shared information about local physicians

+ We learned of a national news story regarding disability claims

+ We shared information about other local support groups that serve the needs of our endometriosis support group members (an infertility group, an interstitial cystitis group, and a fibromyalgia group are all available in our area)

+ I emailed a link of a radio program regarding interstitial cystitis for those group members who were interested (an excellent radio program!)

+ I passed along online newsletter from the Interstitial Cystitis Association

+ We shared information about making medical exams easier (especially pelvic exams)

+ We shared information about physical therapy for pelvic pain... (Contact The National Vulvodynia Association (http://www.nva.org/) to see if your area has this type of specially trained physical therapist

+ We learned of a website about adhesions

+ We shared information about medical research studies being conducted in our community (for endometriosis and fibromyalgia)

+ We shared information about the dangers of some health & beauty products (for everyone!) - but especially women with endo (see the following website for more information: http://www.cosmeticsdatabase.com/splash.php?URI=%2Findex.php)

+ We learned about a "last resort" surgery called presacral neurectomy from a group member who had the surgery

+ We merged 2 support groups

+ We got local TV stations to agree to air endo public service announcements

+ We generated awareness about endometriosis in our community

+ Occasionally group members even brought snacks to meetings!

+ We held a fundraiser and gave 100% of the proceeds to The Endometriosis Association (with the money we raised earmarked specifically for endo research)

+ We learned that many group members have vulvar vestibulitis or vulvodynia and that many group members get terrible migraines

+ We shared information about breast cancer (melanoma, ovarian cancer, and breast cancer are more common in endometriosis patients than in women who do not have endo)

+ Some group members signed a petition objecting to "drive through mastectomies"

+ We learned of 2 websites... one about alternatives to hysterectomy and the other to support women who had gotten a hysterectomy

+ We had guest speakers speak on nutrition, relaxation techniques, Chi Nei Tsang, acupuncture, endometriosis (a gynecologist gave a fantastic presentation!), environmental concerns specific to endometriosis patients, etc.

+ A group member shared a recipe book that might be helpful for endometriosis patients

+ We organized an email campaign to FDA - to request labeling and eventual phase out of PVC and DEHP from medical devices

+ Group members supported each other during difficult times (such as surgeries)

+ We shared info with each other regarding infertility HMO coverage

+ We donated a copy of The Endometriosis Sourcebook to a public library

+ We connected group members who had similar symptoms to one another so that they could support each other and exchange information

+ We learned of a study showing that chronic pain can alter the brain

+ We discussed co-existing illnesses extensively since many support group members have other illnesses besides endometriosis (ones related to endo)!

+ We shared information regarding a drug recall that impacted some of our group members

+ We shared information on books that group members found helpful

+ We supported patients who experienced miscarriage and infertility

+ We discussed prescription treatments, surgical options, and alternative medicine modalities

+ We created a website with information pertaining to the local support group (directions to the meeting location, a meeting calendar, links to relevant websites, etc.)

+ We shared links to news stories we'd seen on TV or in print

+ Patients have gotten connected with each other between meetings to discuss one patient's vestibulectomy (while another patient was trying to decide whether to have this surgery)

+ We LISTENED to each other!

***UPDATE***

RELATED (PREVIOUS) POSTS LINKS TO THIS ARTICLE INCLUDE:

Monday, July 28, 2008 Endo Blog: What Is “Self-Help”?? What Are The Health Benefits Of Volunteering? Why Join/Start A Support Group??

Monday, August 4, 2008 Endometriosis Blog: Self-Help Groups, Support Groups, and Volunteering Follow-up

Tuesday, August 5, 2008 Endometriosis Blog: My Personal History As An Endometriosis Patient

Thursday, August 7, 2008 Endometriosis Blog: How Finding The Endometriosis Association & Participating In Endometriosis Support Groups Helped Me & Made Me A Volunteer!!

I'll end this post with a quote regarding support & self-help groups:

"Mutual support groups, involving little or no cost to participants, have a powerful effect on mental and physical health... The psychological and physical health importance of this diffuse community is striking... The self-help movement, both in face-to-face and virtual arenas, has tremendous therapeutic potential."

From American Psychologist feature article "Who Talks?: The Social Psychology of Illness Support Groups" by K. P. Davison, J. W. Pennebaker, & S.S. Dickerson, (55) 2, pp. 205-217, 2000.

This article was posted by Jeanne via "Jeanne's Endo Blog" at www.endendoat.blogspot.com.

Endometriosis Blog: How Finding The Endometriosis Association & Participating In Endometriosis Support Groups Helped Me & Made Me A Volunteer!!

We’ll call post this “Part Two”:

I will pick up where I left off with the TUESDAY, AUGUST 5, 2008 Endometriosis Blog: My Personal History As An Endometriosis Patient “cliffhanger” post.

Here is where I left off:

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So please stay tuned to find out how The Endometriosis Association helped me to learn about the illness, get needed support, and feel less alone!!!
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If you have not yet read the August 5th post, you may want to read in reverse chronological posting order so that things are in context!

So once I had found the contact information for The Endometriosis Association in the Barnes & Noble bookstore, I went home and called them immediately. At that time, there was a phone number specifically for people who were new to The Endometriosis Association that took messages for call back. (I believe that there is just the main number for The Endometriosis Association now)…

The Endometriosis Association can be reached at:
Phone:(414) 355-2200
Website: http://www.endometriosisassn.org/

I PERSONALLY HAVE FOUND A WOMAN NAMED SHELLEY HOUCHIN TO BE EXTRAORDINARILY HELPFUL AND SUPPORTIVE! SHE IS THE SUPPORT PROGRAM COORDINATOR AT THE ENDOMETRIOSIS ASSOCIATION HEADQUARTERS. I WOULD HIGHLY RECOMMEND CONTACTING SHELLEY IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS ABOUT ENDOMETRIOSIS SUPPORT GROUPS OR THE ENDOMETRIOSIS ASSOCIATION IN GENERAL. THIS WOMAN IS VERY PASSIONATE ABOUT HELPING ENDOMETRIOSIS PATIENTS AND IS A FANTASTIC RESOURCE! SO IF YOU CALL OR EMAIL THE ENDOMETRIOSIS ASSOCIATION, JUST ASK FOR SHELLEY HOUCHIN AND SHE WILL BE VERY HELPFUL!!!

Anyway, someone called me back shortly after I left my message in 1992. The woman was very helpful! Since this conversation took place back in 1992, I don’t remember the exact details but I know she was very nice. I do know that I ended up joining The Endometriosis Association as a member. My membership meant that I began to receive The Endometriosis Association’s newsletter.

The newsletters were the first time I heard stories from women like me who were also endometriosis patients! There were letters that endometriosis patients had written to The Endometriosis Association published in the newsletters and the stories sounded like I could have written them!!

Around this time, I became aware of a book which was published in 1987 called Overcoming Endometriosis by Mary Lou Ballweg. (Overcoming Endometriosis was followed by The Endometriosis Sourcebook by Mary Lou Ballweg and The Endometriosis Association in 1995 and Endometriosis: The Complete Reference for Taking Charge of Your Health by Mary Lou Ballweg and The Endometriosis Association in 2003).

Overcoming Endometriosis, which I read in 1992, helped me to realize that there were many fellow endometriosis patients in the world. Between the newsletters and the book, I was starting to feel less alone.

Somewhere along the line it came to my attention that there was an Endometriosis Association support group right in my city. I had never been to a support group before and didn’t know what to expect! I was quite nervous about calling the Group Co-Leader but I was very ill from endometriosis and so I got past my nerves and placed the call.

I sure am glad I made that phone call!!! The Group Co-Leader was very warm and welcoming. She told me about the support group: where & when meetings were held, some idea of what meetings were like, some of her own personal experience as an endometriosis patient, etc.

IT WAS SUCH A GREAT PHONE CALL! I KNEW THAT I HAD TO GO AND CHECK THE SUPPORT GROUP OUT!

At the time I was a shy, quiet 23 year old with zero knowledge of support groups... back in 1992. The idea of going to a meeting where I would talk with people I didn’t know about my endometriosis made me apprehensive. However, the phone call from the welcoming Group Co-Leader helped a great deal! Also, I was too sick NOT to try a meeting! What did I have to lose? I knew I might very well have a great deal to gain! If the other support group members were even half as nice as the woman I had spoken with on the phone, I’d be foolish not to go!

So the next meeting night arrived. I went to the meeting by myself. This particular support group used a conference room in a hospital for their monthly meetings. Still a bit nervous, I had no doubt that I was doing what I needed to do in order to find the support I so desperately needed!! I walked into a small room with about 3 women sitting at a table. It was still a few minutes before the meeting was scheduled to begin. I believe one more woman arrived after me and then we started the support group meeting.

What a breath of fresh air!!! To sit in a room of women who all automatically “got it”, who all had some idea of what I was experiencing, and some of whom shared many symptoms with me... it was so exciting! I learned a great deal in just that first meeting. This particular group had each woman take turns (only if they chose to speak) talking about any endometriosis-related topic she wanted.

The women typically began by introducing themselves, when it was their turn to speak, for the benefit of new meeting attendees like me. Some told their “endo stories”… brief summaries of their endometriosis journeys to that point. Some talked of having trouble deciding whether to have another laparoscopic surgery or not. Some talked about prescription treatments they were on or had tried in the past. Others talked about alternative medicine (a term that was new to me at the time). It was made clear that I could just listen if I wanted to and that I didn’t have to talk.

By the time it was my turn, I was ready to talk!! I was still shy and quiet but hearing the other endometriosis patients’ stories helped me to relax and open up. I explained how I found the group, that I had talked to the Group Co-Leader prior to the meeting, and that I was very much in need of support! I explained that I had been recently diagnosed with endometriosis and was just beginning to learn about it!

The welcoming response I got from my fellow endometriosis patients was touching and comforting! I felt like I really “belonged” there and this was only my first meeting!! I was very glad I “took a chance” and “dragged myself” to that first support group meeting.

From that point on, I went to every monthly meeting I possibly could! In fact, I scheduled around the meetings as best I could. I was working many hours at the time and it wasn’t always easy to fit the meetings into my schedule. I did my best, though.

I MADE TIME FOR THE SUPPORT GROUP MEETINGS!!!

The support group taught me so much and so quickly! It was a whole new world! I didn’t feel like it was “me against the world” anymore! I finally knew the name of my illness, I was learning more about it rapidly, I got tips on finding a better doctor than the one I had at the time (which was sorely needed!), etc. I was very pleased with the amount of information and support I received at these meetings.

Most months we had 2-6 women in attendance. That was plenty! In fact, we had to keep our turns brief enough to allow each person the opportunity to talk. The meetings were 2 hours long and we often occupied the room right until it was time for us to vacate it!

Now I will fast forward a few years. I accepted a job in a new city. While the city was fairly large, I didn’t know if there would be support group available there. I was pleased to discover that there was. Unfortunately, I didn’t make many of the meetings in that city because I was working a very unbalanced schedule of 80+ hours a week (on average). I did make a couple of meetings in that city, though.

Two years later, I returned to my hometown and resumed the meetings at the location I had originally attended. The group was as warm and welcoming as ever! My work hours were cut way back and I began attending almost-monthly again.

Now I will fast forward another 3 years. I got married & moved again to a third place. This time it was not a city. The rural area where I had moved to did not have an endometriosis support group very close to where I lived. There was a support group in the nearest city AND the one I had just left. The driving distance was a bit much for me to attend either one very regularly.

I did not even know about the endometriosis support group in the nearest city to where I had moved; I found out about it later on when I had decided to form a group closer to where I lived!

So, in the course of starting up my own group... I became aware that there was an endometriosis support group in the city closest to my new home (slightly closer than the group I had just left). I spoke to that Group Leader and I contacted The Endometriosis Association’s headquarters for information on how many women lived near my rural area and whether or not it made sense to form another support group. They sent me data on members in my area and women who had contacted EA for information. Many were "on my side of town", as it turned out.

To make a long story short, I decided after speaking to the Group Leaders from the two nearest cities that it would be worth forming a new (additional) group. The Group Leader from my “new city” was very helpful!!! She gave me lots of tips for how to start a new group! She recommended an EXCELLENT class given by the local Mental Health Association called “Facilitating Self-Help Groups”.

Please see my previous posts:

Monday, August 4, 2008 Endometriosis Blog: Self-Help Groups, Support Groups, and Volunteering Follow-up

Monday, July 28, 2008 Endo Blog: What Is “Self-Help”?? What Are The Health Benefits Of Volunteering? Why Join/Start A Support Group??

So I attended the class, talked with the Group Leaders from the endometriosis support groups on either side of me, and formed a new group.

This Friday will mark my support group’s SEVENTH anniversary! Unfortunately, the other two support groups no longer meet. Like so many groups around the country, these groups decided to discontinue their meetings.

For awhile, we had all three groups active and running. It was great because I had 2 experienced Group Leaders to bounce things off of and they bounced their ideas off of me too.

The group in my “new city” closed first. I was sad to see it close. The very experienced Group Leader had stepped down to take a job out of the area. I asked one of my most enthusiastic support group members if she’d consider stepping in so that we could keep both groups active. This would give women in the area two locations to choose from. We ran in tandem for a little while but her group closed and I absorbed any interested members from her group into mine.

Awhile later, the group from my “old city” closed down as well. This was very sad for me because that group meant so much to me! There were still members in it from when I joined in 1992! Unfortunately, the remaining group members weren’t attending often enough & regularly enough for the group to stay active.

This left me with the only active group in an area covering two moderate sized cities and their surrounding areas. I was more determined than ever to attract new members and keep my group from closing down as the other two had.

I am still in touch with the former support Group-Leaders from both cities!

It has been a couple of years since then. Our smallest meetings consist of two people. Our biggest meeting ever had 15.

EVERY SINGLE MEETING IS WORTHWHILE, REGARDLESS OF HOW MANY WOMEN ATTEND!

I had a couple of “no show" meetings about two years ago. That was when I implemented a new policy that if I didn’t get at least ONE person to RSVP that she was definitely planning to attend, I would simply cancel the meeting. I learned that sitting in an empty room waiting to see if anyone will show up is no fun. I haven’t had a “no show” meeting since!! Either we get 2-5 women (at an average meeting,including me) or I cancel 24 hours in advance with the building/meeting room where we meet. Problem solved!

I encourage you to read the related posts I mentioned above. Who knows?? Someone reading this may get inspired to find a local endometriosis support group, attend meetings, OR start a group if there isn’t one that is nearby!!

I have also created a poll regarding self-help groups and support groups! Please see it in the right sidebar of this blog and exercise your right to vote for the option that applies to you!!

I hope that SOMETHING in this post, in the other two recent posts about self-help groups/support groups/volunteering, and/or in the “PART ONE” post to this one: TUESDAY, AUGUST 5, 2008 Endometriosis Blog: My Personal History As An Endometriosis Patient will be helpful to ENDOMETRIOSIS PATIENTS AND OTHER CHRONICALLY ILL PATIENTS IN NEED OF SUPPORT!!!

You may have an appropriate support group in your backyard and not even know it!!!

I will close this post with a quote that was recently brought to my attention. I believe it’s perfect for this post:

“One of the most important capabilities of community self-help groups is that ordinary people can develop such groups in their local communities when none exist, and subsequently their group usually serves as an extraordinary resource to many in that area for several years. I still find it amazing that to start a group, a person doesn't need a grant, an agency, or even an office - just the inspiration and a few other people who share their experience and hope. What significantly helps in providing such inspiration is a person's knowledge of an existing national organization or a model group, which can provide them with basic information so they don't have to ‘re-invent the wheel.’ "

This quote is attributed to E. Madara, "Mutual Aid Self-Help Group Developments” Community Psychologist, 39 (3), Fall, 2006, p. 21.

This article was posted by Jeanne via "Jeanne's Endo Blog" at www.endendoat.blogspot.com.

Endometriosis Blog: Self-Help Groups, Support Groups, and Volunteering Follow-up

This is a follow-up to the following post:

Monday, July 28, 2008 Endo Blog: What Is "Self-Help"?? What Are The Health Benefits Of Volunteering? Why Join/Start A Support Group??

Since posting this article, I have received some fantastic information offline that I'd like to share with you about self-help groups and support groups.

First, I would like to re-emphasize that if there is not an endometriosis support group in your area (or a support group for other chronic illnesses)... that you might want to give serious consideration to starting one yourself!!

If you don't know where to begin finding or forming a group, here is an organization that can help!!!

http://www.selfhelpgroups.org/

I would also like to include here the first of many interesting quotes that were sent to me on the topic of self-help and/or support groups, their value, and the research that supports their worthwhile contributions to those who need them (not to mention the health benefits that volunteering provides to the person volunteering)!

IF YOU NEED SUPPORT AND DON'T KNOW ANYONE WITH ENDOMETRIOSIS IN YOUR LOCAL AREA, JOINING OR FORMING A SUPPORT GROUP FOR YOUR ILLNESS IS EXTREMELY HELPFUL, IF NOT LIFE-CHANGING!

Anyway, I will close with one of the quotes that was recently sent to me. I received a treasure trove of quotes. So you can expect to see many more where this one came from:

"Mutual help groups are a powerful and constructive means for people to help themselves and each other. The basic dignity of each human being is expressed in his or her capacity to be involved in a reciprocal helping exchange. Out of this compassion comes cooperation. From this cooperation comes community."

- Phyllis Silverman, Ph.D., Dept. of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School, in The Self-Help Sourcebook, 6th Edition, 1998, p. 26 (Our Clearinghouse provides free copies of the 7th Edition of our Sourcebook to those college faculty, who wish to use/distribute free copies to any of their classes. Anyone can use our more up-to-date, free, online keyword-searchable database of national, online, and model groups. Just go to www.selfhelpgroups.org click on the "American Clearinghouse," and enter your keyword in the yellow box).

Self-help and/or support groups are invaluable to endometriosis patients!

This article was posted by Jeanne via "Jeanne's Endo Blog" at www.endendoat.blogspot.com.

Endometriosis Topics: What Interests YOU??? Let's VOTE Using A SHORT Poll To Show What We Want To Read About Endometriosis!

Making Our Endo Blog the Best It Can Be:

I thought this might be a perfect time to ask you and other endo blog readers like you for your input!!

Story ideas/topics can range from one word ones like "infertility" to phrases/questions on loaded topics like "does anyone have tips for dealing with loved ones who just do not understand the limitations that endometriosis puts on me?"

In an effort to determine how to best meet your needs, I have developed a SHORT poll.

Please view the new (and very quick!!) poll. It's in the right (pink) sidebar - after "welcome" and before "archive" sections - of this blog. So cast your votes and have your voice be heard!

I've included the poll to determine which topics interest endo blog readers the most. It allows you to VOTE for one or more of the topics listed. It'll provide feedback for me on YOUR support needs and I'll get to see what my fellow patients are looking for/expecting in an endo blog.

Simply select any (or all) options you find applicable; then just click on "vote" to view the results of the voting by you and other endo blog readers thus far!

I think the best way to make this blog successful and thriving is to elicit input from endo blog readers like you! Who better to ask for input than YOU???

You may know exactly what information/support you're searching for or in need of...

Or maybe you are overwhelmed and NOT sure what to look for...

Either way, I'm sure you can help me focus in on the issues that will be most meaningful and useful for you and your circumstances.

I could honestly write blog posts all day, every day --- but it wouldn't be very productive or useful if no one reads them or finds them helpful! THIS POLL is a chance for YOU to provide input that will help me focus in on the topics that matter to YOU the most!

Please take just a moment (I just checked it's 9 quick clicks OR LESS!) to do the endo blog readers' poll. Just select the topic(s) most interesting to you.

Also, IF you fall into strictly the "other" category listed last, please feel free to email me directly with any endo ideas(s) that I did not list --- but that you would like to see featured. In that case, just email to this address: endendo@frontiernet.net.

If you email ideas directly, PLEASE fill in the email's subject line with "endo blog ideas" (or something similar) --- so your wonderful emails won't get lost amongst a bunch of spam... and I'll be able to use your input & ideas to create new posts for the endo blog. I can't guarantee I'll cover each idea submitted immediately but I will most likely take bits and pieces from endo-related idea emails I get and somehow interweave them into a narrative.

This article was posted by Jeanne via "Jeanne's Endo Blog" at www.endendoat.blogspot.com.